[ensonar]

I'm not sure how to answer that either. But I think as with most things, it's going to depend on each of us individually.

For example, I was always very shy, and so for me, being gregarious can be a not-doing if approached properly. For someone who is very outgoing and talkative, perhaps it would be good to spend some time being quiet and listening.

And I would imagine that as with everything else it will come down to balance, and becoming more and more aware of our self-imporance, so we are no longer uncertain of our own motives.

But most importantly, we must recapitulate! Without that we'll just be trying to reason things out, which is basically what we're doing here.