[Lilac]

I reconcidered my posts and realized that maby I should had mentioned that the arrogance of men and the lack of sense of humour of women are both ways to be self important. Thinking about nagualism I believe we can see differences in sexes, though it's fashionable in the Net to pretend we have no sex at all and are just talking heads...

Where did self importance come from? If we believe there was once cavemen and -women, then one should think about this:

If a cavewoman had children, she would had been very stupid if she would had been just laughing her ass off when her children did something dangerous. If a caveman had to defend his family, he had to feel himself that much important that he trusted himself in battle and he was able to attack beasts and enemies.

The problems arise from that that we don't remember what is the difference between abstract and concrete things. It's ok to defend yourself or your companions when there is a real thread that threatens your life! But when it's all about just communicating, expressing one's ideas, acting with people in non-lifethreatening situations - then the self importance IS just self importance, empty fantasies and energy aimed into wrong situation.